I teach people how to take care of themselves. I write their workouts, coach them through their nutrition choices, and educate them on aligning their lifestyles to best influence their goals. What I’ve continuously learned throughout my years of coaching is that nobody cares about your fitness as much as you do.
I, as a coach, care an exuberant amount about each and every one of my clients. I sympathize with their learning experiences and celebrate their wins as if they were my own. However, what I’ve learned is that NOBODY can care about your fitness (not even the best-intended coaches) as much as you need to and/or do.
‘Irrelevant’ is the best word to use when it comes to how much anyone cares about about how many workouts someone has done over the years or how “shredded” they are now or used to be. As a coach, I want each and every one of my clients to get fitter (if that’s their goal) and healthier (if they are willing to put in the work). But nobody can want it for those people. I’ve tried and failed over the years to help people reach their potential who had false goals. People who say they want it but don’t do everything in their power to get it. Here are some examples:
1) People who want to lose weight but aren’t willing to address the emotional and psychological components of their food behaviors.
2) People who want to have more energy at work but continuously choose television over an earlier bedtime.
3) People who are willing to go “beast mode” and give workouts their 100% intensity when in reality, they would be better off spending the same amount of energy cooking a few meals for the week on a Sunday evening.
Strangers in the gym don’t really care that you’re on your 4th set of 20 air squats. Most of the time people are only looking at you because 1) it’s a natural human instinct to look at other humans 2) you may be doing something new they are trying to learn from 3) who cares why they are looking, smile at em and leave them be.
“What other people think of you is not your business. If you start to make that business your business, you will be offended for the rest of your life.” - Deepak Chopra
Most other gym-goers are also looking around wondering what everyone else is thinking of them and if they are doing everything correctly. AKA: Nobody really cares about how big of sets you’re banging out or which set of dumbbells you’re using (unless of course they want those particular dumbbells you’re using for their own sets).
So strangers don’t care, your coach can’t care for you enough to make you do the things you’re neglecting to do or choosing to do that aren’t serving you… now what? Who is left? Your friends and family love you, but they are focused on their own lives and can’t want your goals for you. Friends and family will be there to support you along the way but they don’t know you like you know you. Those dreams, those desires, those insecurities, that confidence, that drive… whatever is inside of you is yours and yours only.
Nobody really cares about your fitness, except you. Now the next question is: what are you going to do about it?